Is it possible to live our lives not being judgemental

[LBM]

The line "Judge and prepare to be judged" has always fit into my way of thinking about the subject.

[Kman]

I was a cop for 9 years. Judging, profiling, and sizing someone up in a split few seconds saved my life hundreds of times. Now, I am not too ignorant that I can't allow someone to prove me wrong, and I have been shown many times that people I thought would be bad people because they dressed a certain way or had a nose ring, or talked like a girl but were NOT a girl, or whatever other 100's of sterotypes you could think of, were not bad people at all. HOWEVER, I think to ask someone to go thru life and not have any preconcieved ideas about others is not only rediculously impossible, it isn't safe.

Can I get robbed by a guy smoking a cigarette outside a local doctors office wearing a lab coat and a pair of pleated Dockers, SURE! Am I statistically GOING to, of course not.

If I got out my car on the corner of Bourbon and Decatur in the French Quarter and asked a group of guys with their pants around their ankles, gold teeth, and tattoos all over them rapping to a beat in spanish if they could break a 100 dollar bill would that be stupid. ABSOLUTLEY! Might they break it and I walk away unharmed? Sure. But statistically I would get broken.
If anyone says they would do that with no fear because they dont judge people I would have to call you a liar and then offer the $100 bill just to witness it. :D
I am not prejudiced, I am certainly NOT politically correct, I am however statistically correct with the ability to let each man prove himself on his own merit. THAT is the problem today. People forgot that respect is earned and that we DO have to prove we are good people and that society once REQUIRED us to have merit in life. I have to prove it myself almost daily. Again, i do believe that someone should be allowed or given the opportunity to prove himself. I just dont automatically GIVE it to everyone I meet.
I do not apologize for it.
My .2

[Crappie Reaper]

I was a cop for 9 years. Judging, profiling, and sizing someone up in a split few seconds saved my life hundreds of times. Now, I am not too ignorant that I can't allow someone to prove me wrong, and I have been shown many times that people I thought would be bad people because they dressed a certain way or had a nose ring, or talked like a girl but were NOT a girl, or whatever other 100's of sterotypes you could think of, were not bad people at all. HOWEVER, I think to ask someone to go thru life and not have any preconcieved ideas about others is not only rediculously impossible, it isn't safe.

Can I get robbed by a guy smoking a cigarette outside a local doctors office wearing a lab coat and a pair of pleated Dockers, SURE! Am I statistically GOING to, of course not.

If I got out my car on the corner of Bourbon and Decatur in the French Quarter and asked a group of guys with their pants around their ankles, gold teeth, and tattoos all over them rapping to a beat in spanish if they could break a 100 dollar bill would that be stupid. ABSOLUTLEY! Might they break it and I walk away unharmed? Sure. But statistically I would get broken.
If anyone says they would do that with no fear because they dont judge people I would have to call you a liar and then offer the $100 bill just to witness it. :D
I am not prejudiced, I am certainly NOT politically correct, I am however statistically correct with the ability to let each man prove himself on his own merit. THAT is the problem today. People forgot that respect is earned and that we DO have to prove we are good people and that society once REQUIRED us to have merit in life. I have to prove it myself almost daily. Again, i do believe that someone should be allowed or given the opportunity to prove himself. I just dont automatically GIVE it to everyone I meet.
I do not apologize for it.
My .2

I liked and respect your view on this subject. It's right along the same lines of my thoughts. The days of giving respect to a person prior to knowing anything about them are gone. We have given birth to the "ME,ME,ME" generation. Todays world requires us to use caution and discretion when in certain situations. Those who don't, open themselves for a world of trouble.
So yes, I do try to Judge, pre-judge, evaluate, size-up, what ever you might call it. And by the way, I promise that everyone of the "bad" people have a high level of stupidity, ignorance, hate, jealousy, envy, pride and a set of Parents that were not there for them as they grew up in this mess. I think a lot of it begins when a Parent refuses to scold or believe that their Child could actually do wrong. As Parents, by not stepping up and delving out proper punsiment to fit the crime, the Child will never have a chance to learn respect, or how to distinguish between right and wrong and make correct judgements that affect themselves and others.
There are some people that are just bad. All the proper upbringing in the world would not change them. But, let's try to help those who can use the help.

[Kman]

Well said.

On a different topic of respect starting at home,

I'll tell ya another thing that has gone by the way side in this country, the good ol fashion a$$ whippin! When I grew up, (and even MORE so in my Dad's era and more so in his dad's era) you watched how you treated people and what you said to them because the possibilty of a good a$$ whippin was there for the receiving should you unecessarily disrespect or treat someone with a rude behavior. No one sued you later. No parent teacher conferences were called. The police rarely got involved. You just got your butt beat. Ofcourse, we didn't stab or shoot eachother then either.

But we have pussified this country so much by telling our little boys they can't be little boys. Guess what, when you do that, they don't turn out to be MEN! We then tell our little girls that they can say anything they want and do whatever they want with no consequences either.

We are so used to talking to the clerk how we want, flipping off the driver that cut us off, "speaking our mind" to whoever we want to, taking too long at the front of the line and having and "I don't give a dang" attitude about it....and WHY? Cause we don't REALLY believe the clerk will come across the counter and SLAP us in the face, we don't REALLY think the other driver is gonna follow us to the store drag us out and beat our tail, and no one really thinks that someone else might actually tell them to hurry up then back that up with a swift kick to the face when we tell them to go to hell!!!!!!!!!!!
Well, it happens. When it does, don't be surprised. Don't be shocked that someone "could be so violent". Don't go get your attorney and try to garnish his wages for the next 30 years. Thank that man. WHAT you say? That's right. Thank him. he did you a favor. One thing was accomplished here. You WILL think twice before you treat someone like you treated HIM again. I promise. Even if you don't change your ways, I bet you dont do it to HIM. "Yes sir, how are you today....sir?" :D

The point of all this is we should all respect one another and we don't. We just don't. We're not gonna either. Human nature will take what it can, get what it can get away with, and trod upon what lays down. It starts at the home. Parents, if your kids trod on you, get ready, they intend to trod on others as well. The cylce not only continues, it worsens. Just being aware that this takes place makes me a barbarian in the eyes of the liberal world, much less saying it.

I get so tired of being told that I must be tolerant of others when others are held to NO standards. No rules. If we are to be tolerant and non judgemental, lets all play by the same rules. Good for goose, good for gander. it just isn't so any more.