• For all husbands and an update from me.

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    TapOut64
    Published on 01-07-2014 05:45 AM
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    This is in response to losing my beautiful wife on Christmas Day. I am hoping that I have hit rock bottom and am starting my assent. I have lost somewhere around 15-20lbs. I have not been eating much and am resorting to drinking Ensure and protein drinks. It's odd how I always had a nervous stomach, I would go out on first dates and couldn't eat a thing but my first date with Debbie I ate just fine. This has rocked my world like nothing ever has. I commented on my wife's facebook page that I am searching for a direction in life but without Debbie I have none. I did run 4 miles at the ocean front last Wednesday and today I ran 4 miles at home and I went to the gym on Thursday. Where some turn to alcohol and drugs I am turning to running, lifting weights, and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I am trying to make sense of this and am proud to say it has only strengthened my relationship with God. I feel that it is now my mission to spread the word to husbands to always tell their wife's that they love them, hug them, and kiss them. I leave you with a card I found that I gave my wife some years ago, this is what I wrote:

    Debbie,

    This past Sunday at church you leaned into me and looked up at me, I looked at you and thought how beautiful you looked. I started to get teary eyed but managed to blink rapidly so as to not show tears coming from a tough guy. You should know that this was not the first time. On numerous occasions the same has happened. It is a warming feeling to look at you lying in bed next to me, finding you so beautiful, I am a very lucky man. My attraction to you is not only physical but it sure is nice to look at my wife and think what a beautiful woman God has blessed me with. I used to look a the moon and ask God for a soul mate. The other night the moon was bright and I thanked God that he sent me you and that you were in the house besides me. I'll love you forever, George
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    1. katiebell's Avatar
      katiebell - 01-07-2014, 02:10 PM
      Thanks for sharing....
    1. ehall's Avatar
      ehall - 01-07-2014, 07:15 PM
      Tap, this has really hit home with me. I forsook all others back in Dec. of 1985 and we have never looked back. I treasure my wife and love her with the same degree of emotion that you clearly have for your wife. I have no magic words to remove any of your pain, i truly wish i did. I can tell you that your story has brought more than one tear to my eyes and want to leave you with this. Because of your post i am going to re dedicate my love to her and share this story. Your post has strengthened my resolve that there are other good, truly good men out there who hold their wife's in the position that God decreed men do. Thankyou for this post, and God Bless you.
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      fishin813 - 01-07-2014, 08:58 PM
      My thoughts & prayers are with you my friend. The good times you had
      together is what counts....Memories will help heal.
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      NYHellbender - 01-07-2014, 09:06 PM
      Prayers lifted above. Just keep running and God will guide you. Brightest Blessings
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      InviteMeFishing - 01-07-2014, 10:03 PM
      Recently, I read these lines, written by my friend, Crescent Dragonwagon: "Yes, death is part of the deal --- the price tag for love. I don't know if one ever heals or gets over the death of someone really loved, especially when it was sudden... I think more one composts it slowly over time, and eventually their absence and presence blend and merge and become part of the soil from which you grow the person you become..." Prayers for your peace,serenity and comfort.
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      vic n - 01-07-2014, 10:05 PM
      George-I can feel your loss through your words. Know that you are doing many of the exact things you need to do to continue to heal and move forward. God Bless you
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      CCCW - 01-07-2014, 11:29 PM
      Praying for you my brother.
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      day dreamer - 01-08-2014, 09:29 AM
      WOW man that's a real powerful story and just believe in god and you will see her again one day and you will see that see still loves you too.
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      jeepguyjames - 01-08-2014, 02:30 PM
      Tap..... Your story opened my eyes and affected me. Thanks for sharing in your time of grief. Keep leaning on God ...... He's never failed and he won't in your situation either. Thanks for the eye opening post. I will resolve to never take one moment with loved ones for granted again.
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      slabbacks - 01-08-2014, 10:39 PM
      May God bless you during this time and remember that she is and always will be with you in your heart and thoughts. Now let me go and take your advise, thanks you for sharing.
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      Fly - 01-08-2014, 11:06 PM
      I continue to pray for you. You have so many friends here that want to help. With God's help and these wonderful people, you WILL get through this. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
      Fly
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      kickingback - 01-08-2014, 11:19 PM
      Sorry for your loss. Don't give up.
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      l_tedford - 01-09-2014, 08:32 AM
      Excellent story Tap and glad you posted it. Stay strong with the LORD even with the bad.
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      Lotech Joe - 01-09-2014, 08:46 AM
      Behind the crust of you agony lives the glow of your blessings. That crust will never disappear, but one day soon you'll be able to see right through it. God blessed you.
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      Eagle 1 - 01-09-2014, 09:58 AM
      Sorry for you loss , we are all blessed more than we realize till we face life's challenges . Very glad that you are walking with GOD , he will never forsake you .Will be praying for you .
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      royinlox - 01-09-2014, 03:12 PM
      she'll always be in your heart!!!
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      crappyhappy - 01-09-2014, 03:31 PM
      My families thoughts and prayers are with you brother,so sorry for your loss.
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      STUMP HUNTER - 01-09-2014, 06:47 PM
      My thoughts are with you and God is always there with you.
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      RetiredRR - 01-09-2014, 09:05 PM
      Great memories will always be near.
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      Special K - 01-09-2014, 09:24 PM
      May God Bless you and your family and may He give you peace during a time of many questions and much grief and mourning.
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